20岁 光阴不再来（上）

     Why 30 is not the new 20

T1：When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy （n.心理疗法）client.（n.客户） I was a Ph.D. student in clinical（adj.诊所的） psychology at Berkeley. She was a 26-year-old woman named Alex.Now Alex walked into her first session（n.会话） wearing jeans and a big slouchy （adj.懒散的）top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems. Now when I heard this, I was so relieved. My classmate got an arsonist（n.纵火犯） for her first client. 当 我20⼏岁时， 我见到了我的第⼀个需要精神疗法的病⼈。 当时 我是⼀个在伯克利⼤学 读临床⼼理学的Ph.D学⽣。 她是⼀位叫 Alex的26岁⼥性。 第⼀次会⾯时Alex穿了 ⽜仔裤以及略微不修边 幅的上⾐， 进来后直接坐到我办公室中的沙发上， 踢掉她的鞋 ⼦， 然后跟我说她是来跟我讲男性问题的。 当我听到这个时， 我 松了⼀⼜⽓。 我的⼀个同学的第⼀个病⼈是⼀个纵⽕犯.

E2：And I got a twentysomething（二十几岁的人） who wanted to talk about boys. This I thought I could handle. But I didn't handle it. With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road. "Thirty's the new 20," Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, she was right. Work happened later, marriage（n.结婚） happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later. Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time. 所以说， 我有⼀个⼆⼗⼏岁的⼈ 想跟我谈谈男⽣。 我以为我能处 理好这事。 但我没能办到。 Alex在每⼀次会⾯时 都会带来好笑的 故事， 因此对我⽽⾔点点头， 不断拖延出结果的时间是⼀件⾮常 轻松的事情。 Alex会说“三⼗就是新的⼆⼗”， ⽽且就我知道的， 她是对的。 ⼯作要以后才有， 结婚以后才有， 孩⼦以后才有， 连 死亡都是以后才有。 像Alex和我⼀样是⼆⼗⼏岁的⼈除了时间外 ⼀⽆所有。

D3：But before long, my supervisor（n.监督者） pushed me to push Alex about her love life. I pushed back（pushed back拒绝）. I said, "Sure, she's dating down, she's sleeping with a knucklehead（n.蠢人）, but it's not like she's going to marry the guy." And then my supervisor said, "Not yet, but she might marry the next one. Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before she has one."但没过多久， 我的监督就催我 开始推动Alex的爱情⽣活。 我拒绝 了。 我说： “没错， 她现在在约会， 她和⼀个笨蛋同床， 但这并不 表⽰她会和他结婚。”然后我的监督说： “现在还没， 但她可能会和 下⼀个这样的⼈结婚。 再说， 在Alex的婚事上花费精⼒的最好时间 就是在她结婚之前。